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It doesn’t matter how smart you are, hard work can make all the difference.

“You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays.” — The Music Man

(http://katemats.com/my-swan-story-a-journey-of-self-improvement-discovery-and-success/)

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Remedies for Procrastination

1. What "exactly" would success look like? [measurable goal, not vague]
2. What needs to be done to attain the goal? [resolve-falter-point]

But fantasy is a substitute for the real thing – an unconscious endeavor to fulfill impossible goals. But those goals may not be impossible.

Better still is if you can acquire the self-discipline to do the hardest bit of the job first.

Another question is why you don’t want to do what you need to do?

Tom Peters has this simple advice for sustained success: make a list of the things you hate doing and STOP doing them.

For instance, you are more likely to interview well if you prepare properly yet don’t care too much about the outcome. To paraphrase T. S. Elliot, the secret of success is mastering a contradiction: caring yet not caring.

“All success is by a winding stair,” said the philosopher Francis Bacon. In other words, do what you never expected to do such as taking a secondment or something else that takes you out of your comfort zone.

And, if you secretly hope that the coin comes down “heads” rather than tails (or vice versa) – you don’t need to flip it. There is your decision. Your emotions are telling you something.

They took their time – without being too slow. The proverb, more haste less speed applies to decision-making. Make haste slowly.

(http://www.gresham.ac.uk/lectures-and-events/the-psychology-of-doing-nothing)

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But that’s how success works. Fit people are fit because they work out a lot. Successful people are successful because they work incredibly hard. People whose family relationships are close-knit have put time and effort into building those relationships.

Nothing worth achieving comes without a price. To begrudge those who pay the price is unfair. To be unwilling to pay the price will always result in failure.

The next time you consider a goal you want to achieve, decide if you really want to pursue that goal. If the answer is yes, the rest isn’t easy but it is simple.

If you don’t have what you want, pay the price to get it. Don’t begrudge the success of others. Do what they do. It works for them and will work for you.

If you’re not willing to pay the price, recognize that fact and take that particular goal off your list. When you truly let go of a goal you say you want to achieve but really aren’t willing to work to achieve, you shrug off the mental drain of chronic frustration and get more energy to spend on the goals you really are willing to achieve.

(http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/the-hard-truth-about-how-success-really-works.html)

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Why would ever want to be the passenger in your own life, when you could be the driver?

(http://www.forbes.com/sites/actiontrumpseverything/2014/03/23/six-things-you-should-stop-doing-immediately/)

[Great in entirety:]

(http://www.forbes.com/sites/actiontrumpseverything/2013/01/13/how-to-plan-your-life-when-you-cant-plan-your-life/)

Procrastination

http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2010/10/11/later

Lack of confidence, sometimes alternating with unrealistic dreams of heroic success, often leads to procrastination, and many studies suggest that procrastinators are self-handicappers: rather than risk failure, they prefer to create conditions that make success impossible, a reflex that of course creates a vicious cycle. McClellan was also given to excessive planning, as if only the ideal battle plan were worth acting on. Procrastinators often succumb to this sort of perfectionism.

Viewed this way, procrastination starts to look less like a question of mere ignorance than like a complex mixture of weakness, ambition, and inner conflict.

a more radical explanation for the gap between what we want to do and what we end up doing: the person who makes plans and the person who fails to carry them out are not really the same person: they’re different parts of what the game theorist Thomas Schelling called “the divided self.”

In that sense, the first step to dealing with procrastination isn’t admitting that you have a problem. It’s admitting that your “you”s have a problem.

Procrastination is driven, in part, by the gap between effort (which is required now) and reward (which you reap only in the future, if ever). So narrowing that gap, by whatever means necessary, helps. Since open-ended tasks with distant deadlines are much easier to postpone than focused, short-term projects, dividing projects into smaller, more defined sections helps.